Fear Number Five – The Fear of Being Alone
How many people admit that we are simply afraid of being alone?
This is the fear that keeps us in bad relationships, unsatisfactory work environments, the fear that keeps us from doing what we really want to do simply because we want to fit in with the group or maintain the status quo.
Your ‘group’ may be a collection of old friends whom you used to enjoy spending time with and now find yourself pulling away from them.
Or your close family members with whom you feel you ‘should’ agree and please because they are family.
Or a workgroup with whom you have difficulty seeing eye-to-eye.
Or just the person you are in a relationship with.
Making a Change
If you take that first step to make a change, to assert your own needs and preferences, to reach for what you really want for yourself, you may alienate that person or that ‘group’ of people. You fear that you may end up alone.
Do your friends or family mean well but always seem to sabotage your attempts to make improvements in your life? It may be because they know you’ll spend less time with them?
Worse than that, maybe you choose to stay in a bad or abusive relationship because you don’t want to be alone.
Maybe you think ‘better the devil you know than the devil you don’t’?
Maybe you hang out with some people even though you don’t approve of their lifestyle. Are they are the only friends you have?
Or maybe you stay in your current work environment because you don’t think anyone else will hire you?
So much is to do with your own self-esteem and the fear of being Alone.
Which of the Five Fears is holding you back?
Of all the Five Fears that have been discussed, which one is the one that is holding YOU back?
Once you have identified your fears, you can face them front on. You may find that what you fear really isn’t as bad as you imagine. Very much like the ‘monster under the bed’ when you were a child.
Create a vision of how you want your life to be. Think with a solution focus flowing in a positive direction.
Get help to gain clarity about the REAL issues holding you back. My 5-Day Life and Career Clarity Challenge is the best place to start getting your life under control.
Once you acknowledge the cause of what may create real or imagined fears, then you can take the right steps to remove the cause and conquer those fears.
Start to live the life you deserve. You owe it to yourself to be the best you can be. Make the most of your life before it’s too late.
This quote from Marianne Williamson is one of my favourites:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you NOT to be?”
The Five Fears Holding You Back
There are 5 fears that may be holding you back from achieving the success you deserve. Which one of these fears is holding you back from achieving what you want in life?
The Four Fears covered in previous articles are:
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